Do you … fight fair?

Over the years I have shared space on ‘the couch’ with many couples experiencing ‘conflict’. It is believe it or not, one of the way human beings do intimacy or closeness. We have sat together and tried to untangle that finger of blame from what each person’s Authentic Self is really trying to say. You…

Where are these ‘normal people’?

And … Has Anyone Seen them recently? I am a Healer, that’s the truth of it – I ‘know’ things. Sometimes I don’t exactly know what I ‘know’, if you know what I mean. I go by many other names also, Psychologist, Herbalist, Counsellor, Therapist – mystic maybe … it is something I am still…

The Dangers of Emotionally Deaf Parents …

Teenagers are notorious for their emotional mood swings. The extreme reaction of “I love you,” and “I hate you,” (sometimes happening within a few minutes) is enough to drive most parents crazy. To cope, many parents ignore their own emotions in an effort to try to manage their teen. Overtime, this develops into a pattern…

Our feelings belong to Democracy

Don’t they? For Schizzle! The personal is political. It becomes even more so when our feelings are denied, suppressed or marginalised. Our feelings when unexpressed have an interesting way of asserting themselves and speaking. They can become body symptoms or illnesses. They can become conflict with out partner about the way they wash the dishes.…

Wanted! Rites of Passage. Dead or Alive. Literally!

What am I going on about? Do you remember, dear reader, when you were young? Before it all happened? The disappointment. The sadness you never speak of, yes – that, what you don’t want to think about, that person, event, experience or place where you left your power and sense of self AND you have…

Vulnerability, Surrender & the Game of Shame

Lost of people ask me … to define exactly what the ‘Authentic Self’ is, what is it Imogen? I say, “Good Question”. And it is a good question. What do we do to find a quick answer to a complex question, we go to YouTube. And if it is complex – we look for some…

Couples in Conflict

So everybody in relationship with another person – could be child, sister, brother, colleague, neighbour, father, mother, partner – doesn’t matter what kind of relationship it is – will eventually experience the erruption of conflict. Conflict is an inevitable consequence of being human, of being individual and seeing things from a unique perspective. None of…